• Emi Valerio

Five Things Not To Do On Valentines Day


Other than Christmas, Valentine's day is the second most expensive holiday. People are spending a whopping $512 per person on gifts. According to data from the Census Bureau, there are 105 million unmarried people in the U.S., or 44% of all U.S. residents over age 18. 53% of single people are women and 47% are men. For this reason, the dating odds favor single men.

The struggle to be loveless on a day made for love is real and it’s the dumps. It’s a day to take inventory of what you have to be thankful for. For single people, it’s also a day to love your friends, and your family, and it’s a day to love yourself.

1. Complain About How You’re Single.

You, my friend, need to take a deep breath in. There is absolutely no point in going around grumbling about the fact that you, like countless others, are single. Yes, you might not be in relationship, but when you really break it down you aren't alone. Not only do you have the companionship of God, you are joined by millions of other individuals who do not have a special someone to share this made up holiday with. Second, yes, you may be alone, but at least you have yourself. Take this time to learn to enjoy your own company. Leave the comfort of your couch and venture out to a place where you can pamper yourself. Go to my favorite place—the SPA!!

2. Reconnecting With Old Flames

I know you might be tempted to call, text, or email your ex on V-day. But hold up, stop what you're doing, and drop your phone. Reaching out to your ex can only bring up old feelings and emotions. It will only spiral your emotions out of control. If after Valentine’s day you feel as if you want to reach out to your ex, do so but proceed at your own risk. During this holiday our emotions may be heightened, we find ourselves settling for receiving any type of love, and we may stop waiting for the best kind of love.

3. Seeking Out a Valentine

There is no need for you to seek love. Being that it is Valentine’s day you may be led by your emotions and not by your SPIRIT. Do not allow the enemy to utilize your season of singleness as a time for Him to attack. This is the time that you should protect your heart the most because you will have men on the prowl during this holiday attempting to find a young lady who is vulnerable.

4. Drink Excessively

On a day like Valentine’s Day, there’s no need to compensate for your situation with alcohol. Don’t drink to forget your misery, whether you’re currently single or dating. The most important thing is that you gather around people who love you and would not make you feel less than because of your relationship status.

5. Doubt That Love Is Out There

Just because you’re single at the moment doesn’t mean you’re going to be single forever. There have been times when I thought I was in love, only to realize that heartbreak comes when what you’re feeling isn’t strong enough to keep your heart together when the rest of you is falling apart. Right now, I’m single and a friend recently asked me if I was choosing to be single because of the lack of male attention I receive. To me, LOVE is worth the wait. It sucks, but when you lose hope in the waiting process, you forget what love is all about. So let’s not lose hope and let’s decide to have faith.

On this day, know that you are loved. Our God is our ultimate love and will forever be our date on this day. You no longer have to go searching for love when you have found it in CHRIST!

"We love because he first loved us." ~ 1 John 4:19


38 views
  • Black Twitter Icon
  • Black Facebook Icon
  • Black Instagram Icon
  • Black Pinterest Icon
© 2017. Created by Emi Valerio. 
She Commands, LLC
Email | hello@shecommands.com
United States of America